बुधवार, 26 मार्च 2025

🔍 Do You Really Know Your Kid? - Bridging the Generational Divide: Lessons from Netflix's 'Adolescence'


🔍 Do You Really Know Your Kid? - 

Bridging the Generational Divide: Lessons from Netflix's 'Adolescence'

A Netflix series is forcing us to confront a truth we often ignore...

Netflix's recent psychological drama ‘Adolescence’ isn’t just a gripping show — it’s a mirror to our parenting, our blind spots, and the growing gap between generations.
As a psychologist, mental health consultant, and father to teenagers, I urge every parent and educator to treat this series not just as entertainment, but as an essential psychology lesson.


🎭 Teenage Minds: A World We Think We Know – But Don’t

We love our kids. We try to befriend them, guide them, support them. But Adolescence painfully reminds us — we do not understand them the way we believe we do.

Between us and them lies a wide chasm:

  • Of generation
  • Of mindset
  • Of digital culture
  • Of language and emotions

In Episode 3, there's a brilliant scene where the psychologist offers Jamie a half sandwich (which he dislikes) and dark chocolate with marshmallows (which he loves). It may seem trivial — but it's symbolic of what psychology understands deeply: what a child prefers, resists, or responds to holds the key to their emotional world.


📱 Emojis, Memes, and Mental Health: A Language We’re Not Fluent In

One of the most chilling revelations in the series was how teenagers communicate serious psychological issues through emojis. What looks like random icons to us can be part of an underground digital code that even the police couldn't initially decode.

Terms like “incel”, “manosphere”, “red pill”, and “black pill” may sound like foreign jargon — but they’re not foreign anymore.
🧠 These ideologies are growing rapidly in India, spreading across Instagram, Telegram, Reddit, and even WhatsApp.

As the Times of India recently reported, many young boys in India — isolated, insecure, and digitally addicted — are being drawn to toxic online communities that promote misogyny, self-hate, and violence.


👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Parenting Alone Isn’t Enough Anymore

We parents still think we’re in charge.
We put filters on apps, we try to be friendly, we attend PTMs.
But we cannot decode the psychological trauma they might be living with — unless we are trained to do so.

That’s where mental health professionals — psychologists, psychiatrists, and counselors — come in.
We don’t just talk. We listen, decode, and support in a structured and scientifically designed manner. This is not a luxury anymore — it's a necessity.


📊 How Psychometric Tests Can Help

One of the easiest, science-backed tools for self-awareness is a Psychometric Test — not just for students in Class 10 or 12 but for any age. It helps uncover:

  • Personality traits
  • Emotional intelligence
  • Career alignment
  • Areas needing development

It builds clarity, reduces confusion, and forms the basis of a life-long roadmap — not just for career, but for self-understanding.


🌱 Conclusion

Adolescence is a reminder — not just of the fragility of a young mind — but also of the disconnect between love and understanding.
We love our children deeply. But are we listening deeply? Are we equipped to understand their silent screams?

Let’s start with awareness. Let’s bridge the gap. Let’s seek help when needed.
Because understanding your child isn’t optional anymore — it’s survival.


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क्या आप सच में अपने बच्चे को जानते हैं?

नेटफ्लिक्स की नई सीरीज़ Adolescence एक मनोरंजन से ज़्यादा है — यह हमें बताती है कि हम अपने ही बच्चों से कितने दूर हो चुके हैं

एक मनोवैज्ञानिक और एक माता-पिता के रूप में, मैं इस सीरीज़ को सभी माता-पिताओं और शिक्षकों के लिए एक अनिवार्य मनोवैज्ञानिक केस स्टडी मानता हूँ।


🧠 पीढ़ियों के बीच की खाई — जो सिर्फ़ तकनीकी नहीं, मानसिक भी है

हम अपने बच्चों को दोस्त बनकर समझने की कोशिश करते हैं, लेकिन आज का किशोर एक अलग ही दुनिया में जी रहा है
जहाँ भाषा, इमोशन्स, संबंध और सामाजिक व्यवहार सब कुछ बदल चुका है।

एपिसोड 3 में मनोवैज्ञानिक ब्रियोनी जब जैमी को एक पसंदीदा चॉकलेट ड्रिंक और एक नापसंद सैंडविच देती हैं — वह दिखाता है कि कैसे एक प्रशिक्षित पेशेवर बच्चे की पसंद-नापसंद से उसकी मानसिक स्थिति को समझता है।


💬 Emoji और Internet Culture: एक भाषा जो हम नहीं समझते

अब किशोरों की बातचीत सिर्फ़ शब्दों में नहीं होती — वह इमोजी, मीम्स और कोड्स में होती है।
Red pill, black pill, incel, ये सब अब सिर्फ विदेशों की बातें नहीं हैं। आज भारत के छोटे शहरों और कस्बों में भी इंटरनेट के ज़रिए किशोर विषैले ऑनलाइन समूहों में खिंचे चले जा रहे हैं।


🩺 मनोचिकित्सक और परामर्शदाता अब विकल्प नहीं — ज़रूरत हैं

बच्चों की समस्याएं अब केवल अनुशासन या परवरिश से नहीं सुलझतीं। हमें मनोवैज्ञानिक सहायता की आवश्यकता है — ताकि हम बच्चों की भावनात्मक और मानसिक स्थिति को सही ढंग से समझ सकें और समय रहते सही दिशा दे सकें।


📈 Psychometric Test – आत्म-ज्ञान का सरल साधन

Psychometric परीक्षण एक शक्तिशाली उपकरण है जो यह दर्शाता है कि किसी व्यक्ति की सोच, स्वभाव, क्षमता और रुचियाँ क्या हैं।
यह न सिर्फ़ करियर की स्पष्टता देता है, बल्कि बच्चों और अभिभावकों को आत्म-ज्ञान का रास्ता भी दिखाता है।


🙌 निष्कर्ष

हमारे बच्चों की दुनिया बदल चुकी है।
अब हमें न सिर्फ़ उनका मित्र बनना है, बल्कि उनका मनोवैज्ञानिक मार्गदर्शक भी।

आइए, इस बदलती दुनिया में अपने बच्चों को समझें, साथ चलें और समय रहते सहायता लें।

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सोमवार, 2 दिसंबर 2024

To Kill a Tiger - Must watch Documentary - Disturbing yet Compelling

 



To Kill a Tiger - Released in 2022 a must watch documentary is now available on Netflix. It is one of disturbing yet compelling documentary which should be promoted to showcase the ugly truth of society and how it can change.

Let me confess - I do like watching films and shows and provide my reviews and recommendations in closed groups, but first time I am compelled to put this in public, because this story needs to be told and watched.

It is a real story about a Braveheart Girl and family who fought against all the odds to get justice. Though it is more than 15 year old story, still is relevant to change the mindsets of Patriarchal Society. Having lived and worked in rural areas of Jharkhand I am completely empathetic to understand the predicament of the Girl, Her unwavering and supporting family as well as the determination of the NGOs and support groups. Also Heartfelt to note the believe common man has on the India's judicial systems and though it took time the Justice was served. Kudos to the maker of this documentary. This is a piece of History. It is also Brave for the Girl to agree and put her real face on the documentary. I request everyone to please follow advises given in the film and DO Read those guidance's.

This could have been very easily sensationalized and turn into a propaganda or blamed as showcasing India in negative lights yet the documentary is quite balanced and try to put plain facts as story and avoid all the debatable issues which could have made it otherwise a political satire.

I am compelled to give a detailed review here - This is not a binge watch - It is slow and smooth take it with a pinch of salt, don't try to Gulp it. Directed by Nisha Pahuja, To Kill a Tiger is a harrowing yet inspiring documentary that delves into the deeply rooted patriarchal structures of rural India. It focuses on the courageous fight for justice by a family in Jharkhand after their teenage daughter becomes a survivor of brutal sexual violence.


1. Message and Social Impact

The documentary shines a stark light on the harsh realities faced by women in patriarchal societies, highlighting systemic failures in law enforcement and cultural norms. The family’s unwavering determination to seek justice, despite ostracism and threats, is a testament to resilience. The film is a powerful critique of gender inequality and a rallying cry for change, emphasizing the urgent need for societal reform.


2. Entertainment and Emotional Engagement

While the subject matter is heavy, the film captivates through its raw emotional power. It evokes anger, empathy, and hope, keeping the audience invested in the family’s fight. The pacing is steady, allowing viewers to absorb the gravity of the situation while rooting for the family’s quest for justice. While This is mature, sensitive and very serious subject matter still in my opinion this can be viewed with all the family together where minors would need parent's explanations wherever required.


3. Direction and Narrative

Nisha Pahuja’s direction is empathetic and respectful, focusing on the human aspect of the tragedy without sensationalizing it. The narrative builds on the family’s struggles and triumphs, offering a nuanced portrayal of their courage amidst a flawed justice system.


4. Cinematography and Sound

The cinematography captures the rural landscapes of Jharkhand with authenticity, contrasting the serenity of the environment with the violence and challenges faced by the family. The sound design complements the visuals, with moments of silence amplifying the emotional weight of the story.


Strengths

• Empowerment through Storytelling: The film highlights how an ordinary family can challenge oppressive systems, inspiring viewers globally.

• Balanced Perspective: Pahuja masterfully balances hope and despair, focusing on both the systemic issues and the transformative power of perseverance.


Weaknesses

• Heavy Subject Matter: The details and emotional intensity might be overwhelming for some viewers, limiting its reach to a broader audience, yet My recommendations - Must Watch.

• Lengthy - with 2 hours of duration, this is bit slow and lengthy but justifies the narration. Bear with it the silences and pause are necessary to capture the emotions.


Let me summaries :-

I am compelled to write such long review. To Kill a Tiger is not just a documentary; it’s a movement captured on screen. It’s a profound, heart-wrenching, and ultimately HOPEFUL story of Courage in the face of adversity. This is a piece of work which serves as a vital contribution to global conversations about gender equality and justice.


Rating: ★★★★★ (5/5)

This is a must-watch for anyone interested in impactful storytelling that blends art and activism.

Dr. Amit Kumar

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मंगलवार, 7 मई 2024

Sri Raam’s Calling: How Dreams Became Reality in Ayodhya

Sri Raam’s Calling, Dreams Do Come True 

श्री राम की पुकार: कैसे सपने वास्तविकता बन गए

You must watch dreams because it really becomes reality. Unless you dream you won’t be looking to achieve it.

Though I am strong believer of Destiny,  never really was serious about “जब राम का बुलावा आता है तो सारे काम बन जाते हैं” i.e. when Sri Raam Invites You, All the Obstacles Disappears. 

Have you ever experienced the profound moment when a dream you once had transforms into reality? For me, this happened on a journey to Ayodhya, the sacred city synonymous with the birthplace of Lord Ram.

On January 25th, 2024, I penned a journal entry recounting a vivid dream of visiting the Ayodhya Ram Temple. In my dream, I stood at the entrance, surrounded by the aura of a ceremonial gathering, eagerly awaiting entry. Little did I know that this dream was the first whisper of a journey that awaited me.

Fast forward to March 16th, 2024 I was in front of Sri Ram Lalla, With no prior plans for a vacation during the school sessions break, the idea of visiting Ayodhya surfaced once again on 13th March 2024. It started as a mere thought, a desire to explore the sacred city. Yet, within hours, the wheels were in motion, and we found ourselves embarking on a 1400-kilometer road trip towards Ayodhya Dhaam.  

Tour Itinerary Planned Vs Actual

Ayodhya Tour Itinerary Planned                                                                                

Day 1:                                                                      

·       Dhanbad -  Sasaram  (Morning)                                  [6 hours; 300km] ->   

·       Sasaram - (2-3pm)  - 

{Sher shah ka Makhbara}        

To Varanasi [3 hours;120km] ->                              ·       Varanasi -   (Night stay)         

{Ganga Aarti Darshan}                                                                                

 Day 2:                                                                      

·       Varanasi -                       (Morning)                   {Kashi Vishwanath Darshan} {Optional: Sarnath, Sachi Stupa, BHU}                                 

To Vindhyachal - [2hours; 80km] ->

·       Vindhyachal -             (Afternoon)                     {Mandir Darshan}                                                                                

 To Prayagraj [2.5 hours; 90km] ->                              ·       Prayag Raj -                (Evening)           

{Sangam Snan} Optional: Anand Bhavan, Allahabad Fort, Hanuman Temple}                                                                                

 To Ayodhya [4 hours; 170 km]->  

·       Ayodhya Dham -   (Night stay)                                                                           

Day 3:                                                                      

·       Ayodhya Darshan –  (Morning) 

{Ram Temple, Hanuman Gadhi, Saryu Ghaat +}  

To Buxar    [6 hours; 300km] -> 

·       Buxar –     (Night stay)                                                                           

Day 4:     To Dhanbad  [9 hours; 400km] ->             ·       Dhanbad –  (Night fall)                                                                             

Actual Tour

Day 1    14-03-2024   Dhanbad - 8.30 AM

Lunch at Amas around 2 PM, Decided to Go Directly Banaras (Sasaram can be visited on the way) Varanasi – 6 PM

Check In, Sandhya Arti at Assi Ghat, Ghat Darshan by Boat      


Day 2    15-03-2024   Stay at Varanasi

Kashi Vishwnath Darshan, Varanasi Bhraman, Shopping

                                                                              Day 3    16-03-2024 Left Varanasi - 7.30 AM Ayodhya Dham - 1.30 PM

Ram Mandir Workshop, Sita Rasoi, Kanak Mahal, Swami Darshan, Parking at Station,     Shree Ram Janm Bhumi Darshan,                Stay at Guest House at Kani Ganj


Day 4    17-03-2024              

Lata Mangeshkar Chowk, Ram ki Padi, Saryu Snan, Hanuman Garhi Temple Darshan

Left for Prayagraj - 4 PM, Prayagraj Check In 9 PM


Day 5    18-03-2024              

6 AM Chandrasekhar Azad Park, Amitabh Bacchan Sports Complex, Allahabad University Campus, Anand Bhawan, 

9 AM Snagam Snan 

Left 1 PM, Vindhyachal - 6 PM

Vindhywasini Temple, Khohe Wali Kali Maa Temple, Ashtbhuja Temple on Pahadi (3 Temple Triology, Teeno Mandir Darshan)


 Day 6    19-03-2024              

6 AM Ganga Ghat, Maa Tara Shakti Peeth

Left for Dhanbad - 9.30 AM, 

Dhanbad – Late evening


As we traversed the highways towards our destination, I couldn't help but marvel at the synchronicity of events. What began as a dream had seamlessly woven into the fabric of our reality. It was as if the universe had conspired to make it all happen, reaffirming my faith in the unseen forces that guide our paths.

Last we did Sikkim Tour over 2000 KM by road last year, thanks to the improved conditions of the roads I cherish the long drives which is far much better fun than road trips in USA. Long drives hold a special allure, offering a canvas for introspection and adventure alike. The road to Ayodhya was no exception, with each mile bringing us closer to our destination and deeper into the essence of our journey. 

Inspired by the magic of our trip, I felt compelled to share our itinerary and experiences with others who may be drawn to the sacred city. It's not just about the destination but the journey itself—the moments of anticipation, the thrill of discovery, and the joy of shared experiences. The Itinerary is specially carved as Chaar Dham Yatra - Kashi, Ayodhya, Prayag Raj and Vindhyachal from Jharkhand Bihar. If you have time there are many other places such as Bodh Gaya, Rajgir, Nalanda, Rohtas, Umga enroute can be included.

As I reflect on our journey to Ayodhya, I am reminded of the profound truth that dreams do indeed become reality. It's not merely about wishful thinking but about embracing belief, positivity, and the inherent magic that resides within each of us. Whether it's a journey to a sacred city or the pursuit of our deepest desires, may we always heed the call of our dreams and trust in the divine guidance that lights our way.

If you're interested in learning more about our trip to Ayodhya or seeking guidance for your own pilgrimage, feel free to reach out. Together, let us spread the positive vibes and celebrate the beauty of dreams fulfilled. Jai Shri Raam!

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Journal Entries:-

25th Jan 2024

Dreamed about visiting Ayodhya Ram Temple - saw till entrance, were on some ceremony and waiting to go inside, 


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13th March 2024


Planning to visit Ayodhya Ram Janmbhoomi temple- more as tourist as we didn’t plan any trip this year for school sessions change. Planning to go by car, 


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(Actual journal entry shot)


 


Sending Positive Vibes, Jai Sri Ram  


श्री राम की पुकार: कैसे सपने वास्तविकता बन गए

क्या आपने कभी महसूस किया है जब एक सपना जिसे आपने एक बार देखा था, वास्तविकता में परिवर्तित होता है? मेरे लिए, यह एक यात्रा थी आयोध्या की, एक पवित्र नगर जो भगवान राम के जन्मस्थल के साथ सम्बंधित है।

25 जनवरी, 2024 को, मैंने एक डायरी प्रविष्टि लिखी, जिसमें मैंने आयोध्या राम मंदिर का एक जीवंत सपना का वर्णन किया। मेरे सपने में, मैं प्रवेश के द्वार पर खड़ा था, एक धार्मिक समारोह के आच्छादित माहौल में, प्रवेश के आकांक्षी तौर पर। मुझे यह नहीं पता था कि यह सपना मेरे लिए एक यात्रा की शुरुआत थी।

जल्द ही, 13 मार्च, 2024 को। स्कूल सत्रावकाश मे कोई पूर्व योजना न होने के बावजूद, आयोध्या को देखने का विचार उठा। यह बस एक सोच थी, पवित्र नगर को घूमने की एक इच्छा। फिर भी, कुछ घंटों के भीतर, पहिए चल पड़े, और हम अयोध्या धाम की ओर 1400 किलोमीटर की सड़क यात्रा पर निकल गए

अपने गंतव्य की ओर जाते हुए, मैं आश्चर्यचकित था। जो पहले सपना था, वह हमारी वास्तविकता में बदल रहा था। यह कुछ ऐसा था जैसे नियति ने सब करने की योजना बना ली थी और हम बस मंत्रमुग्ध उसपे बढ़े चले जा रहे थे अपने मार्ग पे। सचमे ये अप्रत्याशित अनियोजित था ।

लंबी ड्राइव का एक विशेष आकर्षण होता है, स्वाध्याय और रोमांच के लिए एक चित्रवास प्रदान करने वाला। अयोध्या का रास्ता इस बात का कोई अपवाद नहीं था, हर मील हमें अपने गंतव्य के करीब ले जा रही थी और हमें हमारी यात्रा के सार के अंदर और गहराई में ले जा रही थी। इससे पहले हमने सिक्किम की 2000 किलोमीटर की सड़क यात्रा की थी परंतु ये अलग था। मुझे ये कहने मे अतिशयोक्ति नहीं की राजमार्गों की उन्नत स्तिथि के कारण भारत मे लंबी दूरी की सड़क यात्रा अमेरिका मे की गई लंबी दूरी की सड़क यात्रा से अधिक आरामदायक एवं आनंद देने वाली है ।

हमारी यात्रा के जादू से प्रेरित होकर, मुझे अन्य लोगों के साथ अपनी योजना और अनुभवों का साझा करने की भावना हुई। यह बस गंतव्य के बारे में ही नहीं है, बल्कि यात्रा के बारे में भी—उत्तेजना के पल, खोज के उत्साह, और साझा अनुभवों की खुशी।

जब मैं अपनी आयोध्या की यात्रा पर विचार करता हूं, तो मुझे यह गहरा सत्य याद आता है कि सपने सच में वास्तविकता में बदल जाते हैं। यह केवल इच्छाओं के बारे में नहीं है, बल्कि विश्वास, सकारात्मकता, और उस अदृश्य शक्ति को गले लगाने के बारे में है जो हमारी प्रेरणा को निर्देशित करती है। चाहे वह किसी पवित्र नगर की यात्रा हो या हमारी गहरी इच्छाओं का पीछा करने का संवाद, हमें हमेशा अपने सपनों के बुलावे का पालन करना चाहिए और उस दिव्य मार्गदर्शन में विश्वास करना चाहिए जो हमारी राह को रोशन करता है।

अगर आप अयोध्या की यात्रा के बारे में अधिक जानने के इच्छुक हैं , तो कृपया हमसे संपर्क करें। आओ इस प्रेरणादायक अनुभव को बाँटें और सपनों की पूर्ति की सुंदरता का उत्सव मनाएं।

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